This is an extremely bitter subject where emotions run high. Nothing is a guarantee in life, even tomorrow. There are those that won the lottery, and those that haven't. Luck has more to do it than you realize. Maybe you were lucky and won the Ovarian lottery, and was born a beautiful person? Maybe you didn't wind up with a guy who is nicknamed "Pink slip Pinkston" while getting your CFI's, maybe you made a move when no one else was for a diamond in the rough? You can only put your best foot forward and hope for some luck.