I’ve been trapped for over 20 years. Paying for a larger house, cars, additional food, clothing, medical expenses, college tuition, etc. works out to a ton of money. I might have a bigger bank account, or better toys if I hadn’t done this to myself, but I’m a richer man because of it. It’s the same reason that I stay in the right seat. I can hold captain in every base, fairly senior in a few, but time at home trapped with my family is worth far more than a few more dollars per hour. If more people put in the time and effort to improve their marriages, they probably wouldn’t give up half their stuff.