I’m a civilian with the opportunity to be making the same decision. Being an 9th year regional CA, and commuting for 6 1/2 of those years my decision is boiling down to which airline is going to offer the best base to live in or have the easiest commute for where my family and I choose to live long term. Good luck....choose correctly!
I agree that AAG management practices are alarming, but keep in mind management changes over time, and the flavor of the “airline industry” will be different next year than it is today. IMO choose what gives you better QOL to be at home with family....in the end this is just a way that we pay our bills.