None of this mess gets us anywhere. Biquering leads to hot heads and more digging in of heels. We all lose credibility with this stuff too.
On a side note, please file ASAPs and get relevant FC(I)Rs on file. ASAPs in particular are free and low-risk (unless we're talking about willful disregard). You're not going to foul-up your friends with ASAPs since their window to file opens when they learn of a problem.
No help is coming. We're going to have to do this on our own.