If you can get on a wide body as an FO that will go along way into predicting your schedule and commutability.
4 hours to EWR isn't that terrible. But the wide body trips usually start later in the afternoon or evening, so that gives you all day to get to work. I found that FO wide body was the most family friendly schedule I ever had. Money was good too.
Your real decision in my opinion is where you want to be and expect to be in 10 and 20 years. As another poster alluded to, it's short term pain for long term gain. Not sure how current situation is in your corporate gig, but back in the day, corporate operations weren't that predictable, profitable, or stable. But, heck what is?