The best part about being the captain is: ultimately what I say goes. No need to convince or cajole. When you aren’t constantly worried about your power being usurped, you might find that things are less tense and you very rarely have pull rank.

If I/FAs/pax want cooler air, I turn the APU on. If the FO does something out of the ordinary I just ask him why. If it makes more sense than what I wanted, we do it, if it doesn’t, I explain to him how I think we should do it. it’s pretty easy

i’m not here to change anybody’s mind about who is the boss/the smartest/a better pilot. I am simply here to be the last line of defense against safety. Leave your ego out of it, your trips will be far more enjoyable