I’m a bit of slam clicker by nature and I’m sure a lot of the guys I fly with think that’s all I am. But I do look at the longest overnight of the trip and try to pick that as a night to go out and do something other than just hanging out at the hotel. Some trips, that overnight has nothing around but a Denny’s anyway (which means I don’t do anything). But when I do go out, I’d rather do what I want to do by myself than whatever someone else wants to do with them. I’m perfectly fine as a loaner (a couple decades as single pilot will prepare you for that). That said, if you want to come along for what I want to do, unless you’re a real turd, I’ll probably welcome the company and conversation. I know it sounds selfish. So what, that’s not an insult to me.

That said, back in the interest of the thread topic. I do go out of my way to avoid one on one time with opposite sex even one on one time in public, be it the other pilot or cabin crew (not counting work environment of course). Just better for the marriage if nothing else but also decreases chances for problems with HR.

Paranoid? One man’s paranoia is another man’s “life is better this way”. I just can’t imagine my wife being OK with me hanging out at a bar with “Jennifer” on an overnight.

On the funnier side. My wife skypes me one night while I’m at dinner at a bar and grill with a flight attendant and another pilot. She’s not in the best of moods and hears me indicate there’s three of us there and quips, “oh, you’re out with a flight attendant, aren’t you”. I say “yeah”, and turn the camera toward the flight attendant and say “meet Juan, the flight attendant”. He waves and she moves on. She never once asked about the other pilot. Who was a woman. lol. I guess women can be misogynistic too.