I’d second this. When my kids were young I stayed super senior as a 737 fo to have control of my schedule. I never missed a holiday, school event, or anything else. I’d also advertise trips away when there was a conflict and take the pay cut. We decided that living where we do and commuting was the best option, but I was still home more than most. Our 25th anniversary is coming up and our kids are well grounded and successful. I don’t have the big house or bank account that others do, but I wouldn’t change a thing.