Dude, good on you for exploring all options. You’re right, you do only get one chance to be a father and clearly family is important to you. The one thing in all your posts you have never said is that you want to be a pilot. Yet here you are, awaiting OE and moving to base with other “irons in the fire” and trying to figure out how to fly as little as possible and wondering why your 401k spillover goes to a tax-free account.


It sounds to me like you will be miserable here and will be miserable to fly with. You’re probably a great dude and smart, but you sound like an SOS DG looking for an angle. I just don’t think you’ll ever end up satisfied with this place as your end state for the next 20 years. I hope you and the family find a solution that makes you happy though.