I feel for the OP.

It’s definitely and adjustment coming off active duty military where if you’re not deployed, most holidays and weekends are off. Add to the fact it seems he may be a drone pilot which means he didn’t deploy away from home and had consistent quality family time.

I found that airline guys consistently oversold
the pay they were making and downplayed the fact that when junior most weekends and holidays we have to work.

With that said, this is a phenomenal job and I really think living in base will be a game changer for you. Be patient and don’t do anything rash like give up a multi million dollar job for a contracting job that could disappear over night. Good luck