I think your perspective will be well received on the forum. I was told early on that becoming a pilot would finish off a poor marriage or strengthen a good one. It seems you are one of the lucky ones - congrats. Life will get better once off reserve. I think it goes more smoothly if you make the pilot journey together from the start as you did. It seems to me that most problems arise from women marrying pilots not fully understanding the lifestyle. Once reality sets in, they are usually gone (with the Lexus and house of course) Welcome to the forum.