I currently do a 3.5 to 5 commute by car (traffic depended). My limit is about 4 hours with traffic then it gets real annoying. It’s rough coming back on a Long Haul flight too. It’s has been less stressful then trying to commute by air plus it’s nice having car in base so that I can head to my family’s place in base as well.
The key that makes it better is to stick my work days together and days off together to minimize driving. Last month was brutal being on reserve and not having the coverage really remake my schedule as desired.
But if I had to choose, option 1. I refuse to drive long distances to take a commute flight. You would be in base with option by the time you drive to the commute airport, park, go through security, wait to get cleared for a seat, board, taxi, fly, land, and finally deplane….