Originally Posted by
FarmHawk
Despite discussing with my wife prior to making the decision together for me to upgrade and her being very familiar with the industry, my upgrade and time as a junior captain affected her more than she expected in emotional terms and had a major impact on our marriage. Because of this and recent events, I don't think she is going to be reasonable with chold custody outside of anything that is codified in the divorce agreement. I have read/heard multiple pilots talk of getting 50/50 custody where their days off are the days the have their kid(s). Max 15 days a month. Some have some minor concessions like they will bid for one or more particular days off per their ex's request. I am working with a family law firm that has had pilots before but there's only so much someone outside the industry has a grasp on. Is there anything you would recommend negotiating for in the custody agreement?
Sorry you're going through that. it sucks. It gets better, but it sucks.
There are, at least, 50 alternate realities in the US about these questions and really every judge is their own universe. Your lawyer is your best (still highly imperfect) source of information
From my own experience ... if the mom is a vaguely competent parent, it will be best for her to have primary custody and you visit as able. Kids do best with one home, one table to do homework on, etc. If they are older/independent, less of an issue.