As a near-grad myself, I can highly reccomend the ERAU extended campus. It allows you to get your flight ratings at any school you like, and submit your licenses for credit.
It is designed for working adults, so at my campus, we only go 1 day per week, per class, for 5 hours, starting at 5:30PM, for 3 credit hours. Also, the semesters are only 9 weeks, instead of the traditional 18.
The classes are about 1/8th of the cost of the two main campuses of ERAU, and you get the exact same degree. From what I have seen, most of their campuses(including mine) are on military bases.