Originally Posted by
CBreezy
I'm going to disagree. While I think it's fair and reasonable to insist on buying beverages and, on special occasions (GS or birthdays or probies) meals, I want to pay for my own stuff. It's certainly a kind gesture but, for me, an unwanted one. I believe in a co-equal partnership with the person I'm flying with. If you buy me beers at night, I want to buy you coffee in the morning. I've had several Captains resoundly reject letting me pay for coffee, even on a single occasion. I'm glad some guys really like to, but please, be mature enough to accept that I prefer to split the check.
It sounds to me like you do agree. You have the emotional maturity to appreciate when someone wants to pay for you sometimes, but you also want to return the favor and don't like it when that isn't appreciated in return. I totally get that.
That's not a you problem, that's a problem with the other guy in this unrequited hypothetical.