Don't talk to the recruiter, talk to the guy in charge of pilot assignments/officer assignments at the guard unit. Some squadrons I have even talked directly with the squadron commander. Some units only get one or two UPT slots per year, and some list these openings on baseops.net and wantscheck.com . Some units don't ever list them and you have to find out directly from the squadron. Find a unit that you are interested in, and ask to get on a mailing list for pilot announcements. When the application window is open, they will send you the official announcement, and you may only have a month or two to get a package turned in.
as far as coast guard, some gouge I heard is that they usually pick up guys who have served for a couple of years and they usually don't hand out pilot slots to OCS guys. I'm military but not an aviator, but there's nothing more that i have ever wanted except to be one. I have been through the whole process of applying for a slot (both through AFROTC and the Guard, and I have researched every avenue that I could find) so if you have a question where to look, PM me.