What did you learn about someone who tries to project their failures onto others as a means to establish himself as normal by portraying what he's gone through as a normal step in the process of life?

You assume that all who drink have failed in life as you did/have. You want to assume that it's a phase everyone goes through and you're normal for having done it. Both of these are false.

There is no right or wrong to a persons decisions. They are their own. Their decisions are not for you to make nor influence. That's being conceited. You think people want or need your evangelism. That's very arrogant. You're basically saying that you have reached a point of enlightenment that the rest of us are not capable of doing on our own. In reality it's the exact opposite. You aren't leading the pack with your wisdom you're actually acknowledging your inability to make conscious decisions in the first place and are now catching up while bringing your baggage with you.

Some are into partying while some aren't. I for one never pass up the opportunity. I've done some very crazy and wild things that I could write a book about and to me they are the reason life's worth living. I can't wait for the next time I get together with my friends and family for drinks and fun times. When I die and someone speaks at my funeral about my life they won't be sad and mellow but instead they'll smile and shout "Damn what a ride!". You're only young once, but if you work it right, once is enough. There's no rule on when you have to become old either.