Doing the Reserve/Guard gig and civilian commercial flying is a big hassle sometimes. I feel for ya'. Drill weekends and AT's can be a problem, especially if you are at an outfit that has limited or no experience with pilots doing it.
Sorry you are having problems with your schedule but it does sound like what I've experienced too. And probably lots of others who are doing/ have done 135.
Hopefully you have decent dispatchers at your outfit, good ones are worth their weight in gold, and bad ones have the power to seriously cost you a lot of wasted time and money.
I know nothing about your outfits staffing situation. Might be run by complete bozos, might not.
I would hope however if you explain your situation with being in the reserves though that they will try to help you out. Also, do you have the possibility of doing trade days with another pilot on your scheduled drill days and for AT's?
I know you are frustrated, but is this the proper venue to vent your frustrations? Your initial thread title is very eye-catching, but pretty unprofessional in my opinion. Have you talked to your CP or DO, or even dispatch yet about your concerns?
Good luck.