Also regarding the guy sitting in ATC... probably thought the same thing about the FO the FO was thinking about him... IMHO your job as the captain is not to create a situation out of what said ass/unprofessional/amateur did but rather to work to prevent it from happening again. Where does fault for the lack of knowledge and god given right attitudes amongst 0-hero and other pilots lie? Lack of Training? Rushed hiring? Self entitlement? Living off parents money? Living off Ramen noodles? Not ready for the job? Busted down to CRJ FO from 757 CA? Depending on the person and their personality it's going to be a combination of these and more, someone who can practice good CRM can deal with this. You as a CA should not focus on illustrating the deficiencies of your crew but on actually commanding the darn plane/crew, that's what the in-Command in PIC is (partially) referring to, challenge your crew to bring it to the next level, don't give them a piece of literature for homework, they will resent you for it, I would have immediately noticed that someone with the personality you describe would have thrown the AIM you gave him away and told everyone else a story about how you were being the ass, that is not the outcome I'd be trying for, since we both end up being asses in each others eyes.