Bear, you're absolutely correct. Some of them will be much better off too if they can transition to stable employment and put the miserable emotional roller coaster ride you've just gotten on behind them. Good luck working for these people.

Katana? What did you get with the J. Crew gift certificate? and if it cost less than $25 did they give you cash back so you could buy food or clothes for your kids, or did they issue a store credit?