The "...you better be right" statement is a terrible statement to make to any crew member on any aircraft, ever. They talk about that one on day one of safety school.
Ditto.
I had to read that several times, because I couldn'd believe someone would actually say that.
I had a very good Commander once tell me. Do what ever it takes to fly safe, and if we have to have a discussion about it; two guys safe on the ground gives you a pretty good position to argue from.