Woa, this could be a setup for some interesting comments.
Seriously, having read some of your other postings I see you are a newbie only in the sense of flying, not necessarily pilots. You (probably) know male pilots are often fairly shallow about women, relate better to your "physical" attributes, and may be dismissive of your intentions/abilities based on your appearance. As you (seem) to have already figured this could be a problem; my suggestion, don't over do yourself to the point of distraction! Keep the perfume to a minimum and dress conservatively, don't give your (male) instructors non aviation distractions.
Regarding career advice. If you are a mother and your husband is the main breadwinner, I strongly suggest staying as close to your home, working as a CFI, building time, keeping close and not flying for airlines. If you can get a good job that has scheduled freight to and from your "home" airport that can have you home on a home/kid friendly basis than that would be your best bet. Stay way from multi day flying (like you did as a FA) its not family friendly and frankly the money is so poor that the downside far out weighs the benefits. Good luck.