In Aspen we had to ask the tower to stop "helping us out" by telling us the tailwind was at 10 kts. The 20kt windsock was horizontal and if you declined the takeoff, in a couple of mins the tailwind would suddenly be exactly 10 kts!
My point is, it seem ATC tries to "help" us out, and 99% of the time very appreciated. When it's a safety issue tho...I don't want a shortcut.
Hope you do well with this matter before the FAA. Keep us posted.