Well after a lot of trips to the range and a ton of reading I finally settled in and got the Sig SauerP226 9mm. Awesome gun. It also comes with the night sights.
It was pricey but in NH there's no sales tax! I knew it was the gun for me and the wife. We both enjoyed shooting it and both did well with it.
I was hesitant just because of the price but you do get what you pay for! Definitely a gorgeous gun. Can't wait to go to the range in the morning.