Just seeking some advice here. I really, really want to join the military when I graduate. Probably the guard or army reserves. Not only do I want to serve our country, but it would take care of most of the 80,000 in student loans I will have. My girlfriend of 6 months, however, isn't supportive of the idea. Doesn't think she can handle it. She thinks if I am deployed that she will probably leave the relationship. I don't know what else to tell her and was wondering if anyone had some advice. Part of me wants to respect her wishes but I'm not sure I want to marry her yet and part of me feels like the woman I'm going to be with should be supportive in my dreams and proud that I want to wear the uniform and serve. Unfortunately, I can't say she does just that.

We talked about it more indepth and she is actually terrified of me going overseas fearing we will grow apart or afraid that I will cheat on her. She said if she leaves me it will be before I go, not after, because she isn't going to take the chance. She feels very strongly about it and her position is not likely to change.