Originally Posted by
Brocc15
I wasn't talking about people "unwilling" to help, I was talking about people bragging about not helping others. If people don't want to help for their own personal reasons that's their prerogative, I just think its nice when people DO offer. There are many situations where people CAN do for themselves, but a little help is still nice. Example: If we are on a tight turn and the person I am flying with CAN get their own food, but since I am going in anyway I offer to get food for both of us. Or if someone is carrying stuff and they CAN open the door ahead, but its easier if I go ahead and hold it because I'm not carrying anything, I try to do that. It's simply being nice to other people. You are right though, it should not be EXPECTED, I think its too bad that people act entitled and it makes other people not want to help anyone.
That is the heart of the problem. Those with expectations and entitlement mentalities harden people against helping with things that could injur them.
If I saw you struggling, I would help you. If you did nothing except whimper and hope that I would "get your hint", I would not.
But here's a question for you: How would you feel if I saw you struggling, and came over to help you. In the course of my lifting your suitcase, I injur my back. After I burn through my sick leave and have to support my family on 50% of my normal pay - how would you feel? Would you wish I had never helped you in the first place? Would you wish that you had packed in such a manner that you could always handle your own affairs?
Carl