Originally Posted by Carl Spackler

That is the heart of the problem. Those with expectations and entitlement mentalities harden people against helping with things that could injur them.

If I saw you struggling, I would help you. If you did nothing except whimper and hope that I would "get your hint", I would not.

But here's a question for you: How would you feel if I saw you struggling, and came over to help you. In the course of my lifting your suitcase, I injur my back. After I burn through my sick leave and have to support my family on 50% of my normal pay - how would you feel? Would you wish I had never helped you in the first place? Would you wish that you had packed in such a manner that you could always handle your own affairs?

Carl