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Girlfriend potentially lost my job
Three weeks ago (August 6th) I was hired by a flight school here in Florida who told me that I could expect to start 2 to 3 Mondays afterwards and to start looking for housing closer to the school. Last week Friday my girlfriend and I were in the area looking at housing and she was bugging me to ask about benefits, pay schedules, uniforms, etc. I was asleep in the passenger seat, when I woke up to see her put the car into park and getting out. Turned out we were in the parking lot of the school. I was a few steps behind her trying to get her to stop and get back into the car, but I walked in just as the Chief Pilot was rushing by the front door trying to get to a meeting. He told me that I caught him at a really bad time and that he'd call me in a week. I waited until yesterday, 15 minutes prior to when he usually leaves for the weekend to try and reach him about when he'd like me to start. Receptionist took my name and number. Now I feel like he has changed his mind about hiring me, and is giving me the cold shoulder.
He hired 6 new instructors including myself, so some people think that he was just too busy to make any calls, but I think I lost the job. Is there anything I can do to fix the problem? My girl wants me to write an email to him explaining why "we" popped in, which I think is a bad idea. I really wanted this CFI job, seems like a great place to work for and I would be flying on a regular basis again Any advice would be welcomed. |
Lose the girlfriend. She sounds like trouble.
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Your story seems incomplete. Did your girlfriend talk to anyone or did the chief pilot just see you and her walking in the school? If he just saw you walking in, then it is no big deal. If your girlfriend confronted anyone and rubbed them the wrong way, then the only thing you probably have to worry about is what your future coworkers think of her.
If they told you to look for a place to live, they wanted you to work for them. I don't think they would un-hire you even if she did walk in to ask about benefits. If they do decide to un-hire you without telling you over that, you don't want to work there anyway. Also, waiting until 15 minutes before the chief pilot leaves on a Friday is not the best time to talk to him. Wait a few days and try to call him in the morning or mid afternoon. Most people do not answer during lunch or at the end of the day. If your girlfriend actually spoke to someone there and was anything other than polite, I would be a little nervous/embarrassed, but if she didn't get a chance to speak to anyone or was pleasant when she did, don't sweat it. |
Originally Posted by piperpilot12w
(Post 859069)
Lose the girlfriend. She sounds like trouble.
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The there aren't a lot of CFI jobs out there, your girlfriend on the other hand isn't a monopoly in and of herself.
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Sounds like you and your girlfriend need to decide who wears the pants.
Don't get me wrong, I do everything I can to keep my wife happy but she understands that sometimes I have to make career decisions she is not entirely happy with in order to be able to support her. When she gets pi$$ed about my choices I let her know I would be more than happy to let her pursue a career and I'll stay home and look after the house. Unfortunately she still makes me work. |
Originally Posted by jsfBoat
(Post 859047)
Three weeks ago (August 6th) I was hired by a flight school here in Florida who told me that I could expect to start 2 to 3 Mondays afterwards and to start looking for housing closer to the school. Last week Friday my girlfriend and I were in the area looking at housing and she was bugging me to ask about benefits, pay schedules, uniforms, etc. I was asleep in the passenger seat, when I woke up to see her put the car into park and getting out. Turned out we were in the parking lot of the school. I was a few steps behind her trying to get her to stop and get back into the car, but I walked in just as the Chief Pilot was rushing by the front door trying to get to a meeting. He told me that I caught him at a really bad time and that he'd call me in a week. I waited until yesterday, 15 minutes prior to when he usually leaves for the weekend to try and reach him about when he'd like me to start. Receptionist took my name and number. Now I feel like he has changed his mind about hiring me, and is giving me the cold shoulder.
He hired 6 new instructors including myself, so some people think that he was just too busy to make any calls, but I think I lost the job. Is there anything I can do to fix the problem? My girl wants me to write an email to him explaining why "we" popped in, which I think is a bad idea. I really wanted this CFI job, seems like a great place to work for and I would be flying on a regular basis again Any advice would be welcomed. Don't worry about it - just wait it out. More so, don't act too desperate or insecure about the job. Tell your girl to chill and things will fall into place...no need for an e-mail. You got it all under control. If he hired you don't worry about it - now, in a couple weeks more and you haven't heard anything from him...I'd probably try to find out what's going on. Take care man! |
I wouldn't sweat it. If you were offered the job I think you'll be fine unless she actually brought up issues with the school.
1) research "rule of thumb" 2) ask her if she spoke to them 3)tell her it's not her place to do anything that could jeopardize your future 4) exercise #1 You handle your business. |
A girlfriend shouldn't be that interested in your job.
Time to Combat Jett that. http://members.chello.nl/m.waterloo/...silestatus.jpg |
Originally Posted by ToiletDuck
(Post 859151)
1) research "rule of thumb"
Anyway now that my attempted movie quote is out of the way. You definetly need to lay down some ground rules. For her to take it upon herself to go to YOUR soon to be employer to discuss YOUR benefits seems a little much. Highly recomend reevaluating each others place in the relationship As for contacting the chief. Do you want to be bothered at the end of the day on a Friday?????? Try a mid morning call might get a better response. Good Luck to ya |
Pics of the girlfriend prior to my recommendations please...
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Maybe the thread should be titled "Ex-Girlfriend potentially lost my job".
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Premonition....
If she's trying to run your life now, as your girlfriend.....
What Hacker said (showed). I lived that nightmare once. |
Can you post a picture of your girlfriend so I can make a more informed decision?
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Originally Posted by flyrr100
(Post 859361)
Can you post a picture of your girlfriend so I can make a more informed decision?
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no picture....no advice.....LOL
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Ditching procedures..Ditch that chick, exit relationship and move on. I don't care if she could be the next Ms America and a total dynamo between the sheets. Get out while you can.
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Originally Posted by Airhoss
(Post 859735)
Ditching procedures..Ditch that chick, exit relationship and move on. I don't care if she could be the next Ms America and a total dynamo between the sheets. Get out while you can.
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what's with all these girl topics that have no pics..
This thread does not deliver ! :(. Again, I vote for pics |
Originally Posted by nfnsquared
(Post 859816)
But first, sneak in and pick the lock to her dresser draw and grab your dick....it'll come in handy and you obviously need to get reacquainted with it anyhow...
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Originally Posted by nfnsquared
(Post 859816)
But first, sneak in and pick the lock to her dresser draw and grab your dick....it'll come in handy and you obviously need to get reacquainted with it anyhow...
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Call sign for the OP:
Girlfriend's Bi*** Hey, we're just having fun with you, please take it in stride...but really, grow a pair :D |
Originally Posted by jsfBoat
(Post 859047)
Last week Friday my girlfriend and I were in the area looking at housing.....
Originally Posted by jsfBoat
(Post 859047)
I was asleep in the passenger seat, when I woke up to see her put the car into park and getting out.
Originally Posted by jsfBoat
(Post 859047)
Turned out we were in the parking lot of the school.
Originally Posted by jsfBoat
(Post 859047)
I was a few steps behind her trying to get her to stop and get back into the car,
Originally Posted by jsfBoat
(Post 859047)
Is there anything I can do to fix the problem?
If it becomes a problem at your (potential) work apologize and then thank them. They helped you see her true colors before it was too late. |
Reminds me of the wife of a B-52 crew member at Castle (yes, wife of a school house instructor) who stormed into the OG's office demanding to know who would be mowing her lawn while her husband was deployed (Desert Shield).
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did anyone else notice Op only has post #1, and then nothing :p
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His girlfriend hasn't allowed access to the internet since then.
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Interesting what the mods will let go, and what they will delete.
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Interesting what the mods will let go...
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Originally Posted by dojetdriver
(Post 860186)
Interesting what the mods will let go, and what they will delete.
OK!!!!......:eek: If that's the case, I would have looked at her and said very sternly..."What the @%** is wrong with you. Have you lost your ******* mind?:mad: As someone quoted in another thread, "Either she's incredibly smart or incredibly STUPID". I tend to believe that it is the latter. atp |
With flying, we learn to set and abide by bottom lines... ILS DH, VFR weather minimums, etc... apply this to real life. Girlfriend takes your work into her hands? GO AROUND! Set a bottom line with this one. If she lost you the job or pulls something like that again, you may want to re-evaluate the compatibility of her and your career.
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Originally Posted by atpwannabe
(Post 860214)
OK!!!!......:eek:
If that's the case, I would have looked at her and said very sternly..."What the @%** is wrong with you. Have you lost your ******* mind?:mad: As someone quoted in another thread, "Either she's incredibly smart or incredibly STUPID". I tend to believe that it is the latter. atp |
Ah, oh well, looks like we may have been trolled. But it was fun:D
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New favorite thread, although JSF has been posting on here awhile, so he will be back. Unfortunately this might've turned a completely different direction than he anticipated.
Need more info, but I have to agree with others, if she's trying to control you now, it's time to get things straightened out. |
Hey guys! Sorry I've been absent from all this, but I had some pretty good laughs reading the posts.
My problem was that I failed to bail out when I first saw signs of a catastrophe, so it's kicking me hard. I am living with her and no I will not put pics up, she's not ugly but..... ahhemm. She's 47 and I'm 28 so I was trying out this whole older woman, younger guy, but it doesn't work. I'm working on getting out soon, but I do have plans. Might go stay in my dad's place, seeming how he's gone most of the month with Kalitta. Don't have to mention it, but I knew I'd NEVER put a ring on it, not with her personality and what I want to do for a living. Then her crazy sister has tried to convince me to write a letter asking for written verification of employment. Might as well rob the guy. I called the CP on Tuesday, but he's gone for the week. The guy that I talked to said that everything is hectic and they're trying to get students organized and settled in, so maybe he's just been really busy. I have been looking for other jobs and had an interview with FIT on Tuesday. Seems though that I might be starting at the place I was hired at, but I do have back up plans in the works. I already told her that if her actions had caused me to loose the job, I'll be gone, no comments or questions, just pack up my things and leave. |
What took me so long to get back on here was that I got a new toy, a 40" lathe that I've been using for the last few weeks. Helps to keep me away from the girl.
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Originally Posted by jsfBoat
(Post 861937)
I'm working on getting out soon, but I do have plans.
The sister sounds like a nut too
Originally Posted by jsfBoat
(Post 861937)
40" lathe that I've been using for the last few weeks. Helps to keep me away from the girl.
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Originally Posted by jsfBoat
(Post 861937)
Hey guys! Sorry I've been absent from all this, but I had some pretty good laughs reading the posts.
My problem was that I failed to bail out when I first saw signs of a catastrophe, so it's kicking me hard. I am living with her and no I will not put pics up, she's not ugly but..... ahhemm. She's 47 and I'm 28 so I was trying out this whole older woman, younger guy, but it doesn't work. I'm working on getting out soon, but I do have plans. Might go stay in my dad's place, seeming how he's gone most of the month with Kalitta. Don't have to mention it, but I knew I'd NEVER put a ring on it, not with her personality and what I want to do for a living. Then her crazy sister has tried to convince me to write a letter asking for written verification of employment. Might as well rob the guy. I called the CP on Tuesday, but he's gone for the week. The guy that I talked to said that everything is hectic and they're trying to get students organized and settled in, so maybe he's just been really busy. I have been looking for other jobs and had an interview with FIT on Tuesday. Seems though that I might be starting at the place I was hired at, but I do have back up plans in the works. I already told her that if her actions had caused me to loose the job, I'll be gone, no comments or questions, just pack up my things and leave. |
Anything goes in country music.
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Originally Posted by FlyJSH
(Post 861971)
Put a ring on "it"? That is a terrible way to talk about your mother!
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Originally Posted by jsfBoat
(Post 861940)
What took me so long to get back on here was that I got a new toy, a 40" lathe that I've been using for the last few weeks. Helps to keep me away from the girl.
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