Divorce, college expenses, etc
02-26-2014, 05:52 AM
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Divorce, college expenses, etc
Divorced and have to decide how to split up college costs for the kids. Wife is a NJ and doesn't want to pay anything (She works, 55K a year plus another 30K Cash child support) After CS, we make within 20K of each other. Kids agreed to pay 1/3. How did other folks do it. Trying to avoid court but……..
02-26-2014, 07:10 AM
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Make them qualify for and apply to state schools using in-state tuition. That reduces costs to around $15k per kid per year, and many states have full scholarships with a minimum (~3.0) GPA. Cost of that school is zero, books and board, maybe. I know a number of states have these programs, they are usually funded by lotteries.
Which States Have Lottery Scholarships?
Which States Have Lottery Scholarships?
02-26-2014, 08:39 AM
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Originally Posted by boog123
Divorced and have to decide how to split up college costs for the kids. Wife is a NJ and doesn't want to pay anything (She works, 55K a year plus another 30K Cash child support) After CS, we make within 20K of each other. Kids agreed to pay 1/3. How did other folks do it. Trying to avoid court but……..
I'm no expert on divorce, but college is usually after age 18 so it seems to me there would be no legal obligation related to college at all. You can chip in whatever you want, the kids can cover the rest somehow and if mom doesn't want to help that's between her and the kids.
But I can't see how either of you could be forced to pay for college by a court.
02-26-2014, 09:52 AM
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Originally Posted by rickair7777
What's a "NJ"?
I'm no expert on divorce, but college is usually after age 18 so it seems to me there would be no legal obligation related to college at all. You can chip in whatever you want, the kids can cover the rest somehow and if mom doesn't want to help that's between her and the kids.
But I can't see how either of you could be forced to pay for college by a court.
I'm no expert on divorce, but college is usually after age 18 so it seems to me there would be no legal obligation related to college at all. You can chip in whatever you want, the kids can cover the rest somehow and if mom doesn't want to help that's between her and the kids.
But I can't see how either of you could be forced to pay for college by a court.
Here is just one example of such a case.
Illinois Divorce: Forced To Pay For Your Child's College Expenses
One thing that is important to remember is that in family law - what would look black and white in other cases becomes VERY gray and the judge has wide power to make decisions based on 'what is best for the child/children'.
OP -
here is a link to a forum discussing this issue.
Divorce Source: Paying for college - non-cust father's perspective
I thought we recently had another discussion on such circumstances.
A situation where one parent wanted the child to go to an Ivy League school and the other parent was *forced* to help with the expenses.
02-26-2014, 01:21 PM
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When I graduated high school I had 3 choices. Get a job, join the military or go to college. One way or another I had to leave. I got student loans, grants, and scholarships and went to college. None of my education was funded by my parents.
If they don't want to do that, maybe they should consider enlisting in a reserve component of the military to pay for it. I think you can enlist at 17, do Basic the summer before Senior year, and then have the GI Bill plus Federal Tuition Assistance (not sure if that program survived sequestration:-/) to pay for school.
Just a thought, YMMV:-)
If they don't want to do that, maybe they should consider enlisting in a reserve component of the military to pay for it. I think you can enlist at 17, do Basic the summer before Senior year, and then have the GI Bill plus Federal Tuition Assistance (not sure if that program survived sequestration:-/) to pay for school.
Just a thought, YMMV:-)
02-26-2014, 01:45 PM
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Originally Posted by CrakPipeOvrheat
Kids don't "agree" to pay for 1/3. Kids don't have a choice in the matter. They can pay for all of it. They'll be fine.
02-26-2014, 02:04 PM
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I am divorced and have a fund for my kids. It will probably pay for one full year or two. After that I told them it's up to them. If you agreed to fund 1/3 then it's up to them to figure out the other 2/3. If mom won't help. That's on her and the kids will see what a POS she is.
In this country there is plenty of money available to anyone who want a a education. That's part of why it cost so much. Anyone can get a loan.
Good luck
In this country there is plenty of money available to anyone who want a a education. That's part of why it cost so much. Anyone can get a loan.
Good luck
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