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I once met a husband/wife Airbus couple (she was the capt, he was the F/O) on a crewbus at Memphis. Seemed like a very nice couple, bid trips together and ran a vineyard (I think) when not flying. Of course, I'd hate to see the fur fly in the house if he ever bid off that pairing! "Oh, gee, honey, looks like I've got Vegas all this month...(nervous laughter)...not sure how that happened..."

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Originally Posted by N5XXER (Post 114022)

Hello to all,

I am wondering if there are any husband and wife full-time pilots out there. My girlfriend and I are both attending Embry-Riddle Prescott as aspiring commercial pilots. We both love to fly and have always wanted to be airline pilots. We have been dating for 2+ years and I would love to marry her. I worry about the QOL down the road though. I know that the first years will probably be the worst always being away from each other. I also know that how much time we get to spend together on a month to month bases will depend on our luck in the scheduling department. She is from DFW and I am from SMF. I like DFW and wouldn’t mind living there. Any suggestions?? Any been there..done that tips?? Thanks

3 words for you: Don't do it!

Why?
1. Too young
2. Wait until you get out of ERAU and are not under the influence of "Riddle Vision". You'd be amazed at how your perceptions of the opposite sex will change. TRUST ME!
3. As a regional pilot you will not be able to afford the alimony and spousal maintenance if things take the most statistically probable outcome.
4. Why do it? As a male you have NO advantage whatsoever to get married, only disadvantages.

The best recommendation I can give you is to tune your radio to 101.5 FM on weekday afternoons. He will teach you a few things that ERAU doesn't ;)

PS. By the way, NO, I am not divorced. (or married)

Thanks for the info guys!!

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Originally Posted by Shaun (Post 114032)

I have known a few couples that are both pilots. Seems to be working for them. I don't have a lot of other info other than that.

Thats what I have heard from a lot of people...seems do-able.

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Originally Posted by cactusdog16 (Post 114042)

My college buddy married his college sweetheart, both pilots. Last year he was flying for American and she for Eagle. A couple months ago he quit to go work for as an inspector for the local FSDO. His decision was made primarily to improve quality of life for him and his family.

I wouldn't say it's impossible, just difficult, especially if you have kids. Ask any pilot who's married a flight attendant (there are more than a few!). You make the decisions that are necessary and right. I applaud my friend for his incredible commitment to family.

I figured that we wouldn't have much of a choice but to try it, if it became too much and wasnt working out, the only way to avoid divorce would be to change lifestyle to make it work in the family life regieme.

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Originally Posted by kalyx522 (Post 114047)

.....Some can handle it, some can't... some don't WANT to. I guess you have to find that special kind of person who understands and supports your career and lifestyle.......

Well said, didn't think about before, It is very relationship specific wheather it works out or not. And again, if things are not working out, you have one heck of a cross-roads ahead.

Thanks again!!

Basically I will echo all of the above. You need to go in to in with you eyes wide open. There is the likely possibility of a lot of time away from each other for many years as you climb up the ladder. Later in life when you have a little more control over your schedule it get better. On top of that, if you have kids, you will have to bid opposite schedules so that one of you can be home with the kiddos.

I know a couple that are both regional pilots for differenat companies. They are doing alright. She is also an oficer in the Navy Reserves so that helps out a lot also,

I try to be AWAY when my wife is home, but thats just me...

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Originally Posted by palgia841 (Post 114065)

"........3 words for you: Don't do it!

PS. By the way, NO, I am not divorced. (or married)......"

LOL..I knew there was someone out there who was going to post this. It is an option, but you will not know if it was the right option until you have already jumped in with both feet. I think it is much harder to come crawling back begging for forgiveness than to work things out in the long run. I agree riddle vision is a fallacy but I don't think it is a factor in my case. I have a question for you!! If you thought you had met the women of your dreams would you be able to dump her just prior to graduation because of the, "I need to explore my horizons" notion?? AAAHHH....decisions...decisions. Thanks again to all for the advice!!

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Originally Posted by N6724G (Post 114072)

"....... She is also an oficer in the Navy Reserves so that helps out a lot also,"

How does this help?? :confused:

Don't bring sand to the beach...trust me...

mookie

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Originally Posted by N5XXER (Post 114076)

How does this help?? :confused:

Part of the question was how do they make ends meet. an o-4 Resreve check while not great is good.