Don't give up. Give Mesa a go. You don't have any time to lose.

Why is the spouse not supportive?

“While you were off chasing your dream I have been home alone for the last 3 months I might as well be alone”

That kind of thing

If you do get hired and make it through training, it will get worse.
Commuting to a junior FO schedule isn’t the best.

Yup deck seems to be stacked against me

You need to prepare her for the absolute worst. Training isn’t the hard part. The others are right, if she thinks training was hard, wait till a few years of commuting and missed commutes. No one underestimated the work required to get there or the money involved, it’s the relationship side that is hard to predict. Luckily I came from the Corps and a few deployments so regional life was the best life I had given her in a long while.

Yeah, that is exactly why I would recommend Mesa and a PHX base. Given her NW location, it is much more reasonable than being unemployed this fall from GoJet.

Sorry about your situation. I had a friend who was at Piedmont who resigned before his check ride, fearing that he would have the same issues you had with the single engine stuff. He literally got on with Mesa a few weeks later now going to the 175, he used his training in the 145 to get ready for the bigger better Embraer 175. He loves the training and culture there. Just my two cents. They have a culture of getting people the training they need.

Thanks all for your advice and thanks also for not beating me up over this.

Instead of posting in here, you should be filling up your application at Mesa

Don't give up.