Just so everyone who hasn't flown in the CAF is aware, during training exercises the C2 DOES declare red air as hostile. EVERYTHING in training is exactly like it is in the real world EXCEPT for the actual employment of weapons. Training with live weapons is allowed, but the fighter is not allowed to go Master Arm hot (with training weapons, the Master Arm switch does go hot).

So, in training, when someone says "should I shoot him?", everyone is still of the mindset that he really means "should I simulate shooting him?". As far as the 2nd attempt, I can't speak for the RIO's actions as I was never a F-14 guy.