ANG
AF Reserve
AD.

Fighters in Navy spent a lot of time gone. USAF has fleets (C-5, etc) that rarely deploy. That means home all the time except for trips or short deployments. Never met a dad that said "I love leaving my kids/family". There's a price to be paid for doing some of the cooler stuff. Figure out the balance that you want.

Get instrument training. Get some acrobatic training. Instrument training is a higher priority. Both will help you get through pilot training but instrument training will REALLY help you get through pilot training.

Good luck.