Did they know you were there? Maybe they had a time to make getting out of DCA up to EWR? You do realize that flight is really time sensitive correct? Did you stand in the window and try to get their attention? Im just not seeing how you can blame our crews for your misfortune, you go on as far to imply that it was their fault for being late. If you REALLY are a non-rev then I would think you'd have some experience, but maybe you are one of those entitled non-revs who feels that they are everybody's #1 priority and entitled to a seat on every flight.