I understand you have the right to commute, and I always do anything I can to get anyone on, within reason. I simply get tired of hearing people whine about their commute when they choose to do it. No you didn't have to start all over but you did have the choice to move. I am sorry if you have been left behind on your commutes but sometimes it happens. It doesn't happen to me often but nothing irks me more when an FO commutes in on a red-eye, is basically worthless for the day, then cries all day about being sooo tired because he/she was too cheap to come in the day before and get a hotel.

All I am saying is commuters are probably one of the whiniest bunch of people I have ever come across in my life. Many people in my family have had to move 4+ times over their career because their job changed. It sucks but there are no guarantees in life. All I ask is that commuters quit being babies about something they choose to do to themselves. I swear some commuters are into self harm or something with some of the commutes I have seen people try and do. I will admit I have been lucky, however, my significant other knows and understands that I will move if need be. We don't plan on having kids so that does make things a bit easier. Honestly all you guys have to do is tell your wives commuting is not allowed and you simply have to move.