It's a rough crowd . Don't worry, I've found the cockpit less contentious than the interwebs. I think most people are just frustrated at how the company is always talking about how much it cares about it's people, how much they love us and want the best for us, when in reality we're nothing more than a business expense. If they can be friendly without it costing a dime, they will often do so but if there is a cost associated then "doing the right thing" doesn't mean squat. If your hotel room means RA can't get that 69th set of platinum cuff links that match the dress his wife might wear to some future charity ball, well you're SOL unless we give something up for it in negotiations.