Originally Posted by
N618FT
I'm new at this... I'm single, coming from a CFI job and am in no rush... I still don't understand what the big deal is... many companies have 1-2 year upgrades right now... so figure 3 years and hop on to a major. I'd figure you want to be in a position to upgrade as fast as possible and show consistent work ethic. I can understand if there's other factors like money, bases/commuting, family, etc that come into play... is that it? Am I in a position here that makes putting up with stuff easier?
Very much so. The first years are rough and being single makes the difference night and day. You need to decide where you want to be in a certain amount of time. I figured if I work hard I can move up the ladder and afford the type of life I want for myself and significant other. I was very close to getting engaged with someone. We had been living together for awhile. Then one day she told me she didn't want me to go fishing. That she wanted me to stay with her instead. Told me she wanted me to "prove" how much I loved her. I figured she should already know so I took a taxi cab 115 miles back to my truck and have never talked to her since. I could only imagine what she would demand of me due to being gone for my career. In order to have a family I need to be able to support them. In order to fish I need to be able to support her habits too.
Things for me are like a band-aid. End them quickly. If not I knew I wouldn't have had the willpower to do it later and I just know I would have ended up like the TONS of other guys I saw get dragged down by there relationships. Some make it happen but I couldn't.