So if you're on the jumpseat of say UPS 1354, then just go ahead and die?

If it's bad enough, call the go around. Then on the ground you can discuss. And as long as it was a justified go around, what's the captain going to do, chew you out? Go to his jumpseat committee chairman? Worse case scenario when the event is done and landed safely is the CA chews you out. Anything the CA tries to take to the "higher up" will just open the door for drawing more attention to himself for the event that led to the go around in the first place.