Originally Posted by JohnBurke

First, my sympathies for your wife, and best wishes.

Had you introduced the issue with your wife before the problems began, I suspect you'd have had a different outcome, at least insofar as some leniency on account of your hardship. That it was introduced only after problems occurred makes it seem to those listening more of an excuse. I realize it's not, but timing counts.

As for the remainder of your time, it's clear that multiple check airmen and the training review board(s) have a different perception of your progress than you do. It may be a good time to step back, address the personal challenges you're facing at home, and then retry when you are under less pressure. I think you'll have a very different outcome.

I think that with a simple explanation that you were under pressure because of family matters, tried to soldier through, but found it untenable, you'll be fine.

If you try to give a long explanation that comes across as an excuse (as you've just done), you're dead in the water.

Do you understand the difference?