Try non revving on American while all the PSA pilots have priority over you, but not only them, flight instructors in their pipeline program have priority over you, retirees, family members, etc. A Jet Blue guy gets to the gate before you? Guess what?
You are complaining about reserve times... Theres people on here who waited 8+ years to upgrade, many others who were on reserve for years. Some had to have 5000 hours just to get noticed.
Yes things have changed, and yes, it would be ideal to be a line holder as soon as possible. You are severely underestimating the "suck" of non reving as a commuter working for a 3rd party regional, while you could be living on base. Perhaps it is simply something you just need to experience, unfortunately you have to decide now.