both are fly by wire.
Both aircraft will have the boom operator on the flight deck for air refueling as I understand it. Could be wrong, but that is what I remember!
KC-30 offers no area where it has a clear advantage over the 767. In fact it shadow is significantly bigger than the 767, creating possible mog problems. Not sure what the exact differences between the two ac performance, but either one will be a significant increase in capability!