It depends on your perspective. Some people say commuting is the worst part of an otherwise great job. I say commuting is the best part of an otherwise great job. Commuting allows me to have the job I want AND live where I want. Are there parts of it that suck? Yep. Is the pain of commuting worth the benefit of allowing your kids to grow up near extended family? For many, yes. Biggest piece of advice I have is if you make the decision to commute, then choose to accept the pain (and benefits) of the commute and don't let it ruin your career. Don't be that guy who can't do anything but complain about your commute.