Originally Posted by
codydenver
While I agree "poor performance" was an accurate part of what happened, poor conduct Is definitely a below the belt since it is 100% backless and without evidence. I've never once in my life been even pulled aside to "have a talking to" or written up, let alone terminated. Period. But again, I messed up and have moved on. Now, poor conduct is simply inflammatory and false.
I would LOVE an explanation or justification for this, and that is all I'm asking for.
Since I believe it to be a mistake, I would like to know the best route to make this right, or get an answer.
Again, your comments show that you do not own what happened, nor see yourself as the problem.
The employer isn't required to provide evidence.
What you have done "once in your life" is irrelevant and sounds very much like an excuse. Whether you've ever been written up, reprimanded, or had a "talking-to," means nothing and has no bearing here. The ONLY thing that matters is this termination. You don't get to build up good credit and use it to cancel out bad. You have a termination on your record. Many employers will simply pass on you, merely for having it. Those who do decide to give you a chance aren't going to do so based on whether or not you were ever reprimanded in the past, or anyone gave you a "talking-to." Those who do give you a chance to explain yourself are looking for one thing: your ownership of this event, and your ability to show what you learned, and how you sought additional training and help to move on from that event. Anything else is your career suicide. Hopefully you can wrap your head around this.
Ownership means you accept and embrace the reason you were fired. Screwed up an approach, went low without disconnecting the autopilot, messed up a go-around, got unstable and didn't correct it, or whatever. Know it, own it. Owning means you accept full responsibility for the event. It means that you see it as a grave enough mistake that it led to your firing, that you take it seriously, and that you sought enough additional training and help that. you show you took positive corrective action, and you used it to grow as a pilot and a human being. Any other tack, any other spin, any other direction or excuse, will paint you negatively. You have a choice here in the sun; you can either be a suntan or a cancer, but you can't be both. You have to choose.
Someone who can't accept what occurred hasn't moved on, and any employer worth their weight in wet salt will know this and see it for what it is. Again, until you own this, your progress is done.