Why on earth in todays world would anyone be ok with a stay at home wife if your kids have reached school age is beyond me. Especially if you have no kids.. You deserve to pay alimony if that's the case.. The courts treat marriage/divorce like is a business arrangement so could never understand why men think "they got screwed" in divorces. Dont make bad business decisions (like having a stay at home wife) and you wont get screwed.