Originally Posted by
123456
Why on earth in todays world would anyone be ok with a stay at home wife if your kids have reached school age is beyond me. Especially if you have no kids.. You deserve to pay alimony if that's the case.. The courts treat marriage/divorce like is a business arrangement so could never understand why men think "they got screwed" in divorces. Dont make bad business decisions (like having a stay at home wife) and you wont get screwed.
How about you do you, and let every one else live their own life?
I preferred that my wife not have to work; that was not my choice as I don't micromanage my wife, but I made that choice possible for her and we both agreed that remaining home was the best choice. Perhaps you have a problem with that. Too bad. If it's beyond you or your comprehension, also too bad.
Deserve to pay alimony? That's really not your concern. That's for a mutual call based on mediation, or for a judge to say.
If you think men haven't been "screwed" in a divoce, then you haven't ever been divorced.
A wife staying home isn't a "business decision." It's a life choice. Don't confuse the two.
Most people don't marry and structure their marriage based on dissolution, any more than you dust off your coffin every time you go fly. THINK.