Have you ventured into the safety section of this forum? All sorts of discussion regarding incidents. From people that know.

Can you explain the repercussions of someone saying “ yeah, was in the area and heard on the radio “X”. Bumped into the crew after and they told me “XYZ”

???

I guess I’m at a loss as to how it’s so morally incorrect or harmful to the aviation safety community, for someone to say they had an engine failure or a gear malfunction, while operating a flight. No one is divulging details as to what they did or how they treated the incident. Just a story about something going wrong. Relax man. No one gives a crap.