I would say the difference in training is that the military trains probably 10 times more than the typical civilian airline pilot. Only Uncle Sam has that kind of resources.

In my last aircraft, the pilots and engineers had two emergency and procedure simulator sessions each quarter. They were designed so that after a year of training, the pilots and engineers would have seen (in the sim) every major system on the aircraft and the associated emergency procedures (engines, gear, brakes, hydraulics, electrical, icing systems, windshear, tcas RAs, etc). Each pilot would be given an abort, V1 cut, two-engine landing and go-around, single engine landing, and holding. Each pilot would get at a minimum a precision, non-precision, and RNAV approach.

This was just the "flying the airplane" stuff and doesn't include the training missions were you actually fly the airpane. Also, this doesn't include the tactical and mission oriented procedures, emergencies, and procedures.

I'm not saying one is better than the other ... military pilots just have *a lot* more training.