Subscribe to the memphis paper for a month or read it online and you'll get a feel for the violent nature of the city. You should also spend a month or two (just you) living in Memphis and checking it out, before you subject your family to living there. Guys from Memphis don't know better, they are used to all the violence and tension. I have lived all over the U.S. and overseas and Memphis rates in my bottom 5 (Iraqi, Afghanistan, Most of Africa, the poles, north and south and Memphis) good luck.