Somewhat odd but...
06-02-2009 | 10:19 AM
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Thank you all for your feedback.
A couple of specific responses:
11Fan: No, it's not a wind-up, lol, I wish it were. And I've had the computer cleaned... that was the first thing done. I have changed locks. I have reprogrammed the security system.
TomGoodman: No, he's not an imposter. I've attended many SETP and corporate functions with him, he's legit.
Rickair777: Thank you for the answer. That was what I was looking for, was an understanding of just how much of a **** storm this is going to create. I suspect there will be a fairly direct correlation between the degree of damage to his ego and the degree of jeapordy I am in.
To all: Yes, concerning with his career is poor judgement. I realize that. There is no denying I've been a willing victim to this point. But I've just spent the morning on the phone with the stalking division and am now going forward... before he turns into the USAF version of the AstroNut.
With any luck the authorities will be able to defuse this situation. Should you read about this storyline in a newspaper... you'll know the backstory.
Thanks again for the feedback.
A couple of specific responses:
11Fan: No, it's not a wind-up, lol, I wish it were. And I've had the computer cleaned... that was the first thing done. I have changed locks. I have reprogrammed the security system.
TomGoodman: No, he's not an imposter. I've attended many SETP and corporate functions with him, he's legit.
Rickair777: Thank you for the answer. That was what I was looking for, was an understanding of just how much of a **** storm this is going to create. I suspect there will be a fairly direct correlation between the degree of damage to his ego and the degree of jeapordy I am in.
To all: Yes, concerning with his career is poor judgement. I realize that. There is no denying I've been a willing victim to this point. But I've just spent the morning on the phone with the stalking division and am now going forward... before he turns into the USAF version of the AstroNut.
With any luck the authorities will be able to defuse this situation. Should you read about this storyline in a newspaper... you'll know the backstory.
Thanks again for the feedback.
06-02-2009 | 01:33 PM
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It's obvious your ex is having to deal with self-esteem issues. If he is finding his value & worth in people, then he is doomed to repeat this insanity over and over again; not just with you.
Do what you gotta do. Hit him where it hurts......career, possible police record, etc. That'll get his attention.
atp
Do what you gotta do. Hit him where it hurts......career, possible police record, etc. That'll get his attention.
atp
06-02-2009 | 04:21 PM
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I found it plausible because I know a similar guy who did the same kind of stuff in that situation...he was a member of a US military flight demo team. Control issues I guess.
06-02-2009 | 05:33 PM
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I have been where you are and had to call the FAA on my ex, especially after he told me that if I was ever on his aircraft, he would crash the plane. Just start a paper trail of everything that he does. It may seem like a pain to call the police everytime something happens, but do it. The FAA will forward the information and investigate. You can do this anonymously.
Good Luck.
Good Luck.
06-02-2009 | 06:11 PM
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I would appreciate insight into this.
The Cliff Notes: Three months ago I ended a long-term relationship with my fiance. He is a retired air force flight test pilot, currently employed in the same capacity with a major aerospace corporation (including joint defense projects). He is not dealing well with the break up. He has always had control issues (how pilot stereotypical), but now it has reached stalker level. Beyond constant text & email messages of his love for me and our being soulmates, he has left gifts on my doorstep at midnight, surreptitiously followed me, and been entering my home when I'm not there. But the final straw for me is discovering monitoring software, installed post-breakup, on my computer which feeds him, literally, all my computer activity.
At this point I feel I need to consider obtaining a restraining order. My question is what is this going to do to his career? I keep thinking of the security clearance reviews that are done periodically. Will a history of a restraining order damage him? Or will it not affect his career at all? I still want to believe he will come to his senses and don't want to destroy 30 years of building a highly respected career, but I also need to protect myself. He simply is not acting rationally anymore.
Any insight would be appreciated.
Thanks in advance.
His Ex
The Cliff Notes: Three months ago I ended a long-term relationship with my fiance. He is a retired air force flight test pilot, currently employed in the same capacity with a major aerospace corporation (including joint defense projects). He is not dealing well with the break up. He has always had control issues (how pilot stereotypical), but now it has reached stalker level. Beyond constant text & email messages of his love for me and our being soulmates, he has left gifts on my doorstep at midnight, surreptitiously followed me, and been entering my home when I'm not there. But the final straw for me is discovering monitoring software, installed post-breakup, on my computer which feeds him, literally, all my computer activity.
At this point I feel I need to consider obtaining a restraining order. My question is what is this going to do to his career? I keep thinking of the security clearance reviews that are done periodically. Will a history of a restraining order damage him? Or will it not affect his career at all? I still want to believe he will come to his senses and don't want to destroy 30 years of building a highly respected career, but I also need to protect myself. He simply is not acting rationally anymore.
Any insight would be appreciated.
Thanks in advance.
His Ex
Second, as I understand that you were in a loving relationship with this guy, he is abusing you and is indirectly threatening your life.
If you don't have him locked up for his crimes, this guy will at some point physically harm you. And you'll be lucky to survive it.
So you have to ask yourself, why are you putting his career above your safety and potentially your life? Screw his career, IT'S YOUR LIFE !!!
06-02-2009 | 07:40 PM
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With sadness and best wishes
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