Never been divorced- don't intend to. In my life, I've observed a few marriages and divorces. A couple of global observations seem consistent.

CAVEATS-
1. One never knows the whole story.
&
2. There are always two sides to every story.

That said, it seems:

1. That one of the parties is either a nutjob or an a55hole. You pick the gender, but my gender choice is pretty specific and again, fairly consisitent.

2. Substance abuse- both legal and potentially illegal; often plays a part.

3. Selfishness and lack of "give" seem prominent- "he/she always...." Like in anything, little problems ignored tend to grow. The fire you could've easily put out a while ago, well.... Should a married guy play softball-sure. Should he play 3-4 nights a week? You get the picture.

4. Lack of communication skills.

5. Control issues.

6. Unreal expectations- If I didn't have my wife, would I want to be married to a 23 year-old nymphomaniac model? Probably. Is my spouse trending that way- no. But I'm not Brad Pitt either. Actually, I'm not even a 30 pound overweight Brad Pitt- NO WAIT! I'm sorry, that statement is half right.

7. Space- reasonable time away from each other is good.

It's true love is blind- so you can't tell people in love anything. A good friend of mine married a very high maintenence battleaxe. Ironically, I get along with her great. As he says, "I'm glad when you visit because you deflect attention from me!" But prior to the marriage, several parties (not me) try to tell him to not do it. In any case, they've been at it for 17 years. So something must be working.

Again, these are just my observations.

 

[QUOTE=OldAg84;92521]Never been divorced- don't intend to. In my life, I've observed a few marriages and divorces. A couple of global observations seem consistent.

CAVEATS-
1. One never knows the whole story.
&
2. There are always two sides to every story.


Somewhat true. There are really 3 sides to every story..His, hers and the truth!!!

 

Never been divorced- don't intend to.

Of course no one intends to- but that's me- Master of the Obvious!

 

So you're saying there's a chance!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

Well Slice, there are always exceptions to the rule.

 

What's the point of getting married? ... Just find an nice girl, buy her a house and be done with it! Why go through all the drama in the middle.

 

What and miss out on that special machine the court wheels in at your final divorce hearing?

What was that thing called?...................

Oh yeah, I remember now..... "The Scrotum Stretcher"

 

marriage and work are the 2 most evil inventions that humanity produced.
women and men are not meant to live all the life with one person.
unfortunately i made the mistake too.